He wrecked his car, he lost his job, and yet throughout life he took his troubles like a man – He blamed his wife! That is nothing new. Blaming others is as old as sin. The original couple started the Blame Game the first time they were confronted about their own behavior!
With fellowship with God broken, Adam came creeping out of hiding at the voice of God, “Adam, where are you?” He admitted he had disobeyed God’s commandment, but proceeded to point the finger of blame away from himself. Adam blamed the only two persons he knew. He said, “It was the woman who you gave to me” – that caused me to disobey. Adam blamed his wife for giving him the forbidden fruit and blamed God for giving him the woman.
God turned to Eve and she said the devil made her do it. God didn’t accept their excuses back then, He doesn’t accept ours now, and He won’t accept them on the Judgement Day. Every disobedience and transgression has consequences. Blaming someone else will not gain forgiveness. It will hinder the one doing the blaming from receiving forgiveness.
In well over a half century of doing Pastoral counseling I can say with certainty, that nobody ever receives full deliverance as long as he/she is pointing the finger of blame toward others. I observed that in a very short time I could determine if the counseling would be successful if a person pointed the finger of blame at husband or wife or someone in authority – they would go away like they came and receive no help. However, when a counselee said, “It is all my fault. I did wrong. I take full blame for my wrong actions!” that person will invariably receive help.
Confession brings forgiveness. (1 John 1:9) Blaming others sinks one deeper in the mire of self-pity, victimhood, and bitterness. The old spiritual said it best, “It’s not my brother, it’s not my sister, but it’s me, oh, Lord! Standing in the need of prayer.”
The way to victory in your life:
- Put away blame.
- Take responsibility for your own actions.